This week on Mama Monday we met with Karen Cliche is an actress of 25 years in tv, film and radio. Her love of marketing let to a side career in event management and brand representation with a passion for women owned businesses. Most importantly devoted mom to her 10 year old daughter Sienna!
Please Define Motherhood In Your Own Words.
I take motherhood pretty seriously in that I feel a huge responsibility to raise a happy and healthy human being for the world. As we mothers know, it’s a full time job and our minds never stop thinking about them, how they are doing mentally and physically, especially during these strange times. Motherhood to me means that she knows I am always there, rooting for her and guiding her with any knowledge I have gained over the years.
What Advice Can You Give Our Mommy Readers?
Consistency! My daughter listened very well as a toddler because she knew no meant no with me. There were barely any negotiation fights because she knew that I wouldn’t budge. I think kids feel secure with those boundries and structure. But when she was in grade 2, she went through a hard time at school and I started to bend my rules and gave into her a lot to compensate for her emotional state and since then, she definitely pushes back more. It’s not about being rigid and not letting them have a voice – it’s more that in this crazy world we live in, having a consistent, stable person to rely on is key. And do not compare yourself to other moms. You can get inspiration from them, but you parent the way you feel is best for your child and your values.
What’s on Your Playlist?
My music taste depends on my mood! I love calm piano jazz – I always play it while cooking, or in the mornings- it really sets a tone for the day. In the car, give me anything I can sing to! Female singers are my favorite: Madison Violet, Sarah McLachlan, Colbie Caillat, Natalie Merchant, Amy Winehouse, Adele. I also love the funk band St Paul and the Broken Bones- I dance like crazy at their concerts! Remember those?!
How do I measure my success as a parent?
The only way I measure success as a parent is how happy and well adjusted my daughter is. The days when she is sad or anxious, I try to find any way to fix it and make her feel good by boosting her confidence and joy but letting her know these feelings are normal -that as adults we feel that way too sometimes and you have to find things you are grateful for to ground you again.
What Is Your Favourite Go-To Dinner Recipe When You Are Short On Time?
My daughter loves broccoli, so my go-to dish is to boil a box of bowtie pasta, add 4-5 cups of bite size broccoli florets in the last couple minutes, drain. ( keep some of the pasta water). In a large pan, melt at least 2 tbsp each of butter and olive oil ( never said this was diet food! lol) over medium heat and add 1 tbsp of minced garlic and the zest of one lemon and cook for about a minute. Turn off the heat and add the juice of that lemon, a pinch of red chili flakes, pepper and about a tsp of salt. Add in your pasta and broccoli to the butter mixture and toss together. Add some of the pasta water if you find it too dry. Sprinkle lots of parmesan cheese and serve! YUM!
What’s your favourite part of being a mom?
I am not an overly romantic and affectionate partner, so my daughter is my outlet for all that physical smothering haha! We have “snugglefests” several times a day, where we cuddle in bed any chance we get. It’s our favorite thing to do together. Since she was born I have barely been away from her – maybe a week a year, so we are very attached to one another. I love being her soft place to land, physically and emotionally.