new moon

Filed Under Pregnancy and Birthing, Tips & Tricks | July 9, 2009

There’s a new term in our culture these days:  Babymoon, a time of bonding for a new family alone together, allowing for a similar rest and intimacy as found on a honeymoon.  Interestingly, the travel industry has redefined babymoon as a luxurious pre-birth getaway.  While a holiday is always nice, even more precious are your first weeks together as a new family.

In the Rajasthani culture in India women were traditionally secluded for nine days postpartum, attended to by female relatives.  The Amizagh of Morocco allowed for ten days, while in Indonesia women remained within the home without chores for 42 days.  During this time, these new mothers receive ample rest and emotional support, and the opportunity to focus on bonding and caring for baby.

In our culture, the arrival of a new baby is met with excitement by friends and family who are eager to hold and greet your newborn babe.   But, as newborn parents this is a precious time, and the experience may be enhanced by creating your own unique babymoon.  Here are some simple ways to bring the babymoon spirit to your postpartum experience:

A Day of Rest: Some families find it helpful to designate a daily or weekly rhythm with hours or days of rest, and times during which family and friends are welcome.  You may choose to set aside a full week or more of private time together as a family.

Help: Consider asking your incoming guests to either bring a cooked meal or help with some cleaning.  People do want to help, but they may not know what you need. One of our relatives even cleaned our bathroom for us. A better gift than a onesie anyday!

Circles of Support: Define your circle of support carefully during this time, inviting those who will nurture and care for you, respect your needs as newborn parents, and fill your home with love.

Your weeks postpartum are both a joyous and overwhelming time. We hope these ideas will help you nurture your new family while also honouring your relationship with friends and family.